Therapy For Couples Who Want to Connect With Themselves and Each Other

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It’s 2 am and you’re still spinning from the argument that happened hours ago.

Something’s going wrong in the communication with your partner…. You don’t know what, but you know you need someone to help you figure it out.

You’re on the same team, you just can’t see it.

Stop me if this sounds like the pattern you’re in:

One of you needs to regulate their emotions when they get upset. They think, “Get away from me. I need a moment to breathe. Right now, talking isn’t helping anything.”

They start self-shaming, reading into things that aren’t actually being said by their partner. They shut down.

They think, “My partner doesn’t care that I want space” while not communicating that’s what they need.

Underneath, they fear vulnerability.

They might think they shouldn’t have feelings or show them. They may feel shame for not being able to be what their partner needs in the moment. But the sadness and shame are deeper than this argument. Maybe they fear they aren’t enough.

The other partner may be thinking, “We need to solve this NOW! Why don’t they care about me? If they cared about me they’d do things differently. They’re shutting down because they don’t care. Running away from this isn’t going to do anything. “

This partner’s fear is abandonment. They think “why don’t they love me enough to be different? I’m the problem- if I were better they’d love me.” or “Really?! This is a big deal and you’re acting like it’s not. Am I crazy? Am I too emotional over the little things?”

Since you found me, it’s time to fix the larger problem - the problem underneath.

Introspective couples work can help create a more intimate couple relationship and rich therapeutic experience. The work is done by focusing on both partners - individually and as the couple, together. Each partner has the opportunity to support the other during the sessions by listening to what their partner is saying, acknowledging the emotions their partner is identifying and the underlying reasons for them. Our sessions will strive to make everyone feel heard, learn and practice interventions so that you have a good understanding of this new way of interacting with one another.

We’re unearthing patterns and identifying the underlying emotions that create them.

You’ll learn how to talk to one another, learn about yourself, your relationship and how to say what you’re feeling rather than continuing the pattern of arguments and misunderstandings.

Let’s be clear. We are not choosing who’s right or wrong in an argument. That’s not going to solve anything and doesn’t offer any insight into why these arguments are happening in the first place.

During this process, you’ll also rediscover why you’re with your partner. You’re together for a reason, let’s find a way past the relationship’s jagged edges to remember your why and build on that. Each partner will learn the right questions to ask to get the information that’s critical to keeping your relationship on the right track.

What if, instead of feeling like a have to, your relationship feels like a get to? Schedule today to find out the answer.